Sharing his story and seeking advice, the young man took to Facebook to share:
Please I need your advice. My current girlfriend has all the good characters that perfectly defines a wife material plus she’s a scholar and also a virgin (not particularly concerned about this anyway but to evince how disciplined she is) but sometimes she will look attractive to me and other times she will appear unattractive and I won’t feel attracted to her at all.
To clarify things, these changes have nothing to do with her dress sense neither my beholding senses but real changes in her facial appearance and allurement.
To be frank and sincere, she is just greatly above average in attractiveness but she’s not stable in her look, she falls far below average occasionally. Also, we’re both dark in complexion and I will prefer my children to be lighter than I am, if not fair.
I have been trying to look beyond her look by focusing on other quality attributes she possesses but the issue about her irregular look keep on fluctuating my feelings for her.
The crux of it is that I’m in my early thirties I need a serious relationship; someone to build a future with and finally get married to but here I am with someone that meet up with more than seventy percent of my requirements in my ideal wife but with an unstable look that is threatening my feelings for her.
I am concerned about this because of some issues we consider trivial are still crashing marriages these days….
How important is look in marriage?
Is it me that is making issues out of trivial matters because this lady is receiving a lot of relationship advances from people far better than I am and she’s turning them down to maintain her commitment to our relationship?
Is there any possibility of stability in her look in the future considering that she’s still in school?
Your genuine, mature and constructive advice is highly needed.
I will appreciate ones from those who have experienced what I’m currently going through.
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